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Tips to Keep Your Kids Safe in Prom Night

Prom night is the most anticipated night of the year for many high school seniors, and often the most dreaded by parents. It’s a high-pressure night full of angst over the dress, hair, makeup, and of course the guy. So, while we can all talk about great hair and makeup looks (and you know I will) I really want to talk about the safety aspect of prom night. Here are some guidelines to help every parent keep their child from making bad choices.

1. Get the phone numbers of your child’s prom date and at least five friends so you can reach someone. Inform your child that you expect them to answer their cell phones and texts should you call them.

2. Give your kids a curfew. There is nothing your kids can do after 2 a.m. that they can’t do before 2 a.m. Its not a trust issue, it’s a safety issue. Do you really want your kids roaming around after 2 a.m.?

3. Remind your child that everyone has a camera. With cameras hidden everywhere, it is so important your child realizes not to behave in public in a way that might cause them shame if it ended up on YouTube.

4. Colleges can take away what they have offered. A college acceptance can be revoked for illegal behaviour and for getting expelled from high school. Prom night is not Vegas. What happens on prom night could jeopardize their future.

5. Inform your kids not to go to a hotel room with friends if there are drugs and alcohol present. If police enter the hotel room and there are illegal drugs present, your child could be arrested even if he/she was not using.

6. Do not serve alcohol to minors in your home. If you think you are being the smart parent and serving minors alcohol so they don’t drink elsewhere, guess again. If a minor gets alcohol poisoning or leaves your house and comes to harm, you could be responsible because you served them alcohol.

7. Sex is not a must on prom night. There is a lot of pressure on girls to lose their virginity on prom night. It is really important you talk to your daughter about sex on prom night, her expectations, and the expectations of her date.

8. Who is going to drive? Drinking and driving is one of the scariest parts of prom night. Make sure you are comfortable with who is driving and where they will be going. Talk about driving safety, seatbelts and not getting into a car with anyone who has been drinking or getting high.

9. Tell your child they can call you at any time during the night and you will get them, no matter where they are and what the circumstance is. Its better to be picked up by mom than the police.

10. If your child is a freshman, sophomore, or junior and they are asked to the prom, proceed with caution. After-prom parties are not appropriate for the typical 15-year-old. They will face unnecessary pressures and situations they might not anticipate. If they want to go to the actual prom it is OK, but they must come home right after.

Prom should be a fun evening and a night to remember for the great times with friends, not the vomiting or the police record. So start talking to your kids now about prom and make sure they know they can talk about anything and everything with you.

Prom night safety tips

As prom night approaches, help make the night memorable and safe for your teen. It’s time to buckle down and have a talk about drinking, drugs and sex. Learn to set realistic expectations for prom night partying.

As your teen prepares for prom, it’s easy to get swept up in the storm of dating woes, outfit selection and friend drama. Prom may feel like one of the most important nights of your teen’s life. By setting rules and talking to your teen before prom, you can help make sure it’s a night to remember for all the right reasons. Use these safety tips to structure your child’s big night out.

Talk about peer pressure
Peer pressure gets a lot of bad buzz, and in most cases, it’s warranted. It’s peer pressure that often drives kids to break rules and engage in unhealthy and unsafe behaviors. Talk to your teen about the science behind peer pressure. When you consider it’s a primal need to impress other members of your species, it doesn’t sound as cool to fit in. Remind your teen to rise above unhealthy instincts or turn peer pressure into a good thing by encouraging her to remain close to responsible friends.

Talk about sex
Many teens feel pressure to have sex or engage in other sexual activities on prom night. Whether your teen is seeing someone or not, have a frank, candid discussion about sex. Teens need to know the facts about sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy risk. While it may be difficult to face the idea of your teen being sexually active, you’re better off knowing and becoming a resource for protection and education. Discuss the dangers of sexual assault and make sure your teen understands not to pressure someone or fall prey to pressure to get physical. Encourage your teen to use the buddy system at parties after prom.

Talk about underage drinking and drug use
According to the CDC, a study conducted in 2009 reported 44 percent of high school seniors drank during the past 30 days. Your teen may be part of that percentage. It’s your turn to do homework. Research and share the risks of underage drinking and binge drinking with your teen. Make sure he understands binge drinking can lead to death from alcohol poisoning or related accidents. Have a candid discussion about what your teen knows about drugs. Help find alternatives to parties with alcohol.

Talk about driving safety and curfew
A report conducted by the CDC determined that eight teens die in a car crash every day in the U.S. On prom night, teens are likely to be wound up, playing loud music and up late. Reduce the risk of a car accident by talking to your teen about keeping music low, staying focused and staying off her cell phone. If she’s allowed to stay out late, make it mandatory she check in once she’s safely arrived and at predetermined times. If possible, consider getting together with other families to rent a limo to transport your teens.

Best safety tips for women walking alone at night

Know the people, so they recognize you. Stop in regularly at stores and restaurants along your path home. Figure out who has the best exorbitant price on snacks, which places will let you use the restroom in exchange for some quick banter, etc. If something happens to you around their shop, you may find you’re not as outnumbered as you originally thought… And if they’re still open at night (or the doors aren’t locked) it’s usually okay if they know you and you’re honest about just wanting to duck inside to avoid some creeps. In a pinch, you can do this with the residential brownstones as well – just walking up the stoop can make some followers hunt other prey, and if that doesn’t work, the shame in asking a stranger to let you in because you’re terrified is nothing compared to the worst that could happen.

Don’t be distracted. Okay, this is a much bigger problem now – when I lived in Boston, I had barely started looking into cell phones, and the iPod didn’t exist yet. Just turn all that shit off, put it away in your bag, and notice your surroundings. It may seem boring at first, but would-be thieves/attackers have less overt signs you’re carrying valuables, and they know you’ll see them coming… Most times, that’s all it takes for them to wait for the next unlucky soul.

Swim with the other fish. While route planning, try to not only look for the best-lit routes home, but see if there are regular faces on your morning/evening trains who head at least a block or two “your way” at night… You’re not the only one who feels nervous at night – old brick casts a dark shadow – and most people are happy for the company, even if all you ever do is slightly nod heads that you recognize each other. Sort of a dupe of the first item, but for mobile, rather than stationary peeps.

In case of fire, break a $20. Always, ALWAYS have cab fare home, in cash. If the situation starts looking too sketchy, don’t get all brave about it, walk back to the nearest sign of civilization, and call up a taxi to get you the rest of the way. I say this as someone who unknowingly lived across the street from a crackhouse for 3 months – I never felt like I had conquered that fear, or that I was getting closer to doing so. Eventually I just wised up and moved somewhere safer.

Just. Fucking. Lose. It. If the worst should happen – there’s someone right behind you, same turns last four blocks, looks weird and evil, etc… Just scream. Lose it. Call as much attention to yourself as possible, but unless you are actually attacked, do so without accusing/referencing your stalker. I can’t think of a time when loud human noises in whatever neighborhood I was in didn’t get a fair number of folks popping to check windows, or running outside with a frying pan in hand. Most of the people living, working, and sleeping around you are good folks, and they won’t just let you be taken. Note – If you acknowledge the “bad guy(s)”, they are more likely to try to actively silence you… But if you’re just “crazy lady/guy”, then they can easily walk on without any ego bruising.

Hopefully, none of the above situations will happen to you, but given how hard it is to properly arm and defend yourself effectively without a lot of training and practice, I highly advise using a mixture of evasion and escape techniques for your summer stay. Oh yeah, and sneakers. Put the heels in your bag if you have to wear them at work, and swap to sneaks for the commute. Night and day as far as escape velocity/running speed on cobblestone and cracked cement pavers.

How to Stay Safe at Night

23271243600_82e3c3e618_bNight is a dangerous time in some parts of the world. In some cities, gangs go around, when people are less attentive. Being out at night in such areas is also very dangerous. However, danger can be minimized with a few extra tips.

Steps

1. Always have a plan of where you are going. Being organized and prepared is the key. You should know where to go in case of trouble.

2. Carry a cell phone with you at all times. This is the number one key. If you are in trouble, you can quickly call someone. For this same reason, have someone to call, like a parent or a friend.

3. Walk confidently. Assailants often look for weak people to target. Walk with your shoulders up and your eyes faced forward. Don’t hunch yourself together or show that you are scared in any way. People will be less inclined to attack you in this case.

4. Travel with a friend. There is safety in numbers, and culprits can be easily overcome by large numbers of people. Also, if you are hurt, someone can go and get help. Criminals are less likely to attack you if you are in a group.

5. If you are traveling with valuables, try not to show it. For example, a very expensive diamond necklace would not be advisable to wear when there are less people around. Don’t carry a very heavy purse either. These attributes will attract thieves to steal from you and assault you.

6. If confronted, speak slowly and calmly. There is nothing worse than showing that you are scared. If you are confident, the people might leave you alone. Showing fear will incline them to cause you harm. Look them straight in the eyes too. Speak loudly. Assure them that you will not cause any harm if released. Don’t beg, this will show you are scared.

7. Stall for time by delaying the assailant as much as possible. Try to wriggle out of their grip and run for help, screaming. Screaming, “Help”, will not do as much as screaming, “Fire!” It will make people intervene.

8. Try to observe the feature of the person who confront you. Include hair and eye color, birth marks, gender, and an estimated height. This will later help you catch him/her.

9. Report to the safest place possible that is nearby, like a police station. Call the cops and report your incident. Include the details of the confronter.

10. If you are raped, don’t change, douche, shower or use the restroom. Important details can be lost. Report the rape immediately to authorities and follow any additional instructions they may give you.

11. Stay in well-lit, populated areas. Areas without decent lightning can be the scenes of incidents.